Individual Therapy
You function well on the outside. But something has felt off for a long time- a quiet exhaustion, a sense of living slightly sideways from yourself.
What Brings People Here
Many of the people I work with have spent years quietly adapting to the mood in the room, to what someone needs, to what might keep things from going wrong. The anxiety, the self-doubt, the relationship patterns that keep repeating. These are usually connected to something deeper. Below are some of the experiences that bring people to this work.
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You replay conversations long after they’re over.
You feel anxious even when nothing is technically wrong.
You may constantly question whether you said the right thing or handled something correctly.Many people I work with learned early on that safety comes from getting things “right” — saying the right thing, doing the right thing, thinking the right thoughts. Over time this can lead to racing thoughts, chronic tension, and the sense that you have to manage everything internally just to feel okay.
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You may feel like you're always trying to improve yourself or get things right — believing that if you could just think the right thoughts, say the right thing, or perform well enough, you would finally feel settled.
Instead of striving to perfect the external, therapy helps build steadiness internally so your sense of safety doesn’t depend on performance.
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Some people come to therapy because their relationships feel confusing or one-sided — even though they're thoughtful, caring people who genuinely want connection to work.
You may notice patterns like:
• walking on eggshells
• over-explaining yourself
• conversations that quickly become misunderstandings
• feeling invisible or misunderstood
• being the “responsible one” or scapegoat
• feeling responsible for someone else's emotional reactionsFor some people these patterns trace back to family dynamics where connection required minimizing yourself or learning not to trust your own perceptions. For others it shows up primarily in adult relationships. Often both.
These adaptations once protected connection. Later they can show up as anxiety, people-pleasing, burnout, or the sense that you have to get everything right in order to feel safe.
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Some people learned very early that it was safer not to need much.
You may think of yourself as “low maintenance.” You may rarely ask for help or support. You may even feel uncomfortable when attention is directed toward you.
Over time this can create the quiet belief that your needs are less important — or that you don’t quite matter in the same way others do.
Therapy becomes a place where your experience finally has room to exist and be taken seriously.
How Therapy Helps
Our work is collaborative and conversational.
We look at patterns — where they began, how they once protected you, and how they may be limiting you now. We also pay attention to your nervous system, not just your thoughts, by noticing how your body learned to brace, anticipate, or adapt in order to stay safe.
Sometimes we go deep. Sometimes we zoom out. Sometimes we laugh. Sometimes we sit quietly with something that finally has space. Sometimes the work is practical, and sometimes it touches something deeper about who you are and what your life is asking of you.
The aim isn’t to “fix” you.
It’s to help you reconnect with the deeper instincts and wisdom you may have learned to doubt so you can feel calmer, clearer, and more able to trust yourself.
Walk & Talk Therapy
For clients in the Sonoma County area, I also offer walk and talk sessions outdoors. Moving together in nature can shift something that sitting still doesn't. If this interests you, mention it when you reach out.
A Note on Depth
For some people, therapy becomes a place to explore deeper layers of meaning — paying attention not only to patterns and relationships, but also to symbolism, dreams, and the inner themes and larger questions that shape a life. When this kind of exploration feels useful, we make space for it. When it doesn't, we stay practical and grounded.
Practical details
• 50-minute sessions
•Telehealth for adults in California & Connecticut
• Fee: $180 per session
• Free 15-minute consultation
Therapy is an investment in yourself — not a splurge or an expense. Self-pay means our work together stays between us, without insurance companies requiring diagnoses or limiting what we can do. It also means I work for you, not for a billing cycle.
Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist
California License #CA111865
Connecticut License #CT3459
If this feels like a good fit, reach out for a free 15-minute consultation and we can talk about next steps.
“Good Faith Estimate”
Under the law, health care providers need to give patients who don’t have insurance or who are not using insurance an estimate of the expected charges for medical services, including psychotherapy services.
You have the right to receive a Good Faith Estimate for the total expected cost of any non-emergency healthcare services, including psychotherapy services.
You can ask your health care provider, and any other provider you choose, for a Good Faith Estimate before you schedule a service.
If you receive a bill that is at least $400 more than your Good Faith Estimate, you can dispute the bill. Make sure to save a copy or picture of your Good Faith Estimate.
For questions or more information about your right to a Good Faith Estimate, visit www.cms.gov/nosurprises.